![]() I think the permission to be adventurous, joyful, wild, to live life fully, is something that ALL of us need, not just men. So why, I have asked myself, did this book resonate so much at the time? And I have to say, that the audience it is aimed at, fundamentalist Christians, could still benefit from a part of this message. Now, years later, 20 years of life experience, one divorce, and two degrees later, I am a bit more solid on my own two feet, and also in an actual healthy marriage, with a man who thinks this book is bullshit. It was symbolized strongly by the name I gave up, quickly followed by my individual identity that was eclipsed. My own desires, goals, ambitions, were not taken into account. He was clearly on his own adventure, and expected me to just be along for the ride. My marriage was driven only by what my husband wanted to do, and what his life goals were. That is the premise that men need to have adventures, and women need to go along with men having adventures. The primary problem with this narrative, that I somehow didn't remember reading the first time I reviewed this, was what ultimately led to 6 years of misery for me, and an eventual divorce. And most of the reasons can be found in this book. But you should also know: I divorced him 6 years later. Those of you who see this, please understand, I was obliged to find good in this thing that my then husband loved so much. Ok, the below review that I wrote when I was an intellectual child still married to my first husband keeps getting likes, so I clearly need to either update it or delete it. ![]()
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